Are your friends good for you? Sometimes we end up having relationships with people who subtly sabotage us. They’re usually well-intentioned but they have their own issues and it can have a negative effect on your life. Here are some of the friends who may be foes in disguise:
Dream suffocators
These people believe they’re protecting you from disappointment. They attempt to dissuade you from trying to fulfil your dreams. Don’t tell them too much about what you dream about doing or achieving.
Negative Moaners
These complainers constantly bring you down because they always list their woes and negative thoughts, wanting you to join in and agree. Don’t join in. Consciously aim to be positive when you’re with them.
Puppeteers
A lot of people want to live their lives through others. They manipulate you into doing what they believe is the right thing. The best way to deal with them is not to ask for their advice.
Competitors
These people have their own fears and feel threatened by your confidence and talents. They try to undermine you while seeming to be helpful and concerned. It’s best to avoid this type if you can and at least try not to confide in them.
Living in the past
Some people constantly remind you of your past mistakes. They don’t seem to realise that you’ve changed and moved forward. They’re scared you’ll leave them behind, so they try to hold you back. If possible help them move forward with you.
Occasionally you need to leave really bad relationships behind you if they’re undermining you. In most cases though, it’s a question of being careful about what you share with whom. Remember that they have their own opinions which aren’t necessarily right for you. If possible surround yourself with as many positive, upbeat friends as you can.
Saturday, May 5, 2007
Sunday, April 29, 2007
RULES TO A HAPPY LIFE
Rule One - You will receive a body, which you might love or hate but it's yours for life, so learn to love and accept it. The important thing is what’s inside.
Rule Two - You will be presented with lessons. Life is a constant learning experience giving each of us individually, opportunities to learn more every day. Learning those lessons helps you understand the meaning and relevance of your own life.
Rule Three - There are no mistakes, only lessons. Your development towards wisdom is a journey of experimentation, trial and error. Sometimes things won’t go according to plan or turn out how you want. Compassion and forgiveness allow you to deal with harsh treatment and help erase leftover emotions. Learning to behave fairly to all, with integrity and humour and learning to laugh at yourself and your own mishaps will all help you see that ‘mistakes' are simply lessons we have to learn.
Rule Four - The lesson is repeated until learned. Problems, challenges, irritations and frustrations are also lessons, which will repeat until you see them as such and learn from them. Your own awareness and your ability to change will help you deal with these setbacks. Accept that you are not a victim of fate or circumstance but things happen to you because of the sort of person you are and what you do. To blame anyone or anything else for your misfortunes is escape and denial. Only you are responsible for you and what happens to you. You need to be patient because change doesn't happen quickly. Give it time to happen.
Rule Five - Learning does not end. There are lessons to be learned all through your life. It’s the rhythm of life and there’s no point in struggling against it. Decide that you will learn and change constantly. Acknowledge your weaknesses, and be flexible enough to adapt to change. This will give you access to the freedom of new possibilities.
Rule Six - "There" is no better than "here". The grass is not necessarily greener and being somewhere else is not the key to endless happiness. Be grateful for and enjoy what you have, and where you are. Appreciate all the good things in your life, rather than pay too much attention to things that will not actually lead to happiness. Living in the present will help you feel happier.
Rule Seven - Others are only mirrors of you. Whatever you love or hate about another person is what you love or hate about yourself. Be tolerant, accept others as they are, and try to be self-aware. Try to truly understand and have an objective perception of your thoughts and feelings. Negative experiences are opportunities to learn more about yourself and your emotions. Support others, because in that way you support yourself. If you feel unable to support others it shows that you are not looking after your own needs.
Rule Eight - What you make of your life is up to you. You have all the tools and resources you need and what you do with them is up to you. Take responsibility for yourself. Learn to let go when you cannot change things. Don't get angry because bad thoughts and memories will only clutter your mind. Be strong and use your courage and adventurous spirit to do what you know is right for you.
Rule Nine - The answers lie inside you. Trust your instincts and intuition. Listen to feelings as well as sounds. Look, listen, and trust yourself. Draw on your natural inspiration.
Rule Ten - You will forget all this at birth. We are born with these capabilities, but our early experiences lead us away from our spiritual selves. We grow doubtful, cynical and lack belief and confidence. The ten Rules are universal truths that apply to us all. Aspire to be wise. Wisdom knows no limits other than those you impose on yourself.
(Based on the 10 Rules of life by Cherie Carter-Scott)
Rule Two - You will be presented with lessons. Life is a constant learning experience giving each of us individually, opportunities to learn more every day. Learning those lessons helps you understand the meaning and relevance of your own life.
Rule Three - There are no mistakes, only lessons. Your development towards wisdom is a journey of experimentation, trial and error. Sometimes things won’t go according to plan or turn out how you want. Compassion and forgiveness allow you to deal with harsh treatment and help erase leftover emotions. Learning to behave fairly to all, with integrity and humour and learning to laugh at yourself and your own mishaps will all help you see that ‘mistakes' are simply lessons we have to learn.
Rule Four - The lesson is repeated until learned. Problems, challenges, irritations and frustrations are also lessons, which will repeat until you see them as such and learn from them. Your own awareness and your ability to change will help you deal with these setbacks. Accept that you are not a victim of fate or circumstance but things happen to you because of the sort of person you are and what you do. To blame anyone or anything else for your misfortunes is escape and denial. Only you are responsible for you and what happens to you. You need to be patient because change doesn't happen quickly. Give it time to happen.
Rule Five - Learning does not end. There are lessons to be learned all through your life. It’s the rhythm of life and there’s no point in struggling against it. Decide that you will learn and change constantly. Acknowledge your weaknesses, and be flexible enough to adapt to change. This will give you access to the freedom of new possibilities.
Rule Six - "There" is no better than "here". The grass is not necessarily greener and being somewhere else is not the key to endless happiness. Be grateful for and enjoy what you have, and where you are. Appreciate all the good things in your life, rather than pay too much attention to things that will not actually lead to happiness. Living in the present will help you feel happier.
Rule Seven - Others are only mirrors of you. Whatever you love or hate about another person is what you love or hate about yourself. Be tolerant, accept others as they are, and try to be self-aware. Try to truly understand and have an objective perception of your thoughts and feelings. Negative experiences are opportunities to learn more about yourself and your emotions. Support others, because in that way you support yourself. If you feel unable to support others it shows that you are not looking after your own needs.
Rule Eight - What you make of your life is up to you. You have all the tools and resources you need and what you do with them is up to you. Take responsibility for yourself. Learn to let go when you cannot change things. Don't get angry because bad thoughts and memories will only clutter your mind. Be strong and use your courage and adventurous spirit to do what you know is right for you.
Rule Nine - The answers lie inside you. Trust your instincts and intuition. Listen to feelings as well as sounds. Look, listen, and trust yourself. Draw on your natural inspiration.
Rule Ten - You will forget all this at birth. We are born with these capabilities, but our early experiences lead us away from our spiritual selves. We grow doubtful, cynical and lack belief and confidence. The ten Rules are universal truths that apply to us all. Aspire to be wise. Wisdom knows no limits other than those you impose on yourself.
(Based on the 10 Rules of life by Cherie Carter-Scott)
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