FRIEND OR FOE?

Are your friends good for you? Sometimes we end up having relationships with people who subtly sabotage us. They’re usually well-intentioned but they have their own issues and it can have a negative effect on your life. Here are some of the friends who may be foes in disguise:

Dream suffocators
These people believe they’re protecting you from disappointment. They attempt to dissuade you from trying to fulfil your dreams. Don’t tell them too much about what you dream about doing or achieving.

Negative Moaners
These complainers constantly bring you down because they always list their woes and negative thoughts, wanting you to join in and agree. Don’t join in. Consciously aim to be positive when you’re with them.

Puppeteers
A lot of people want to live their lives through others. They manipulate you into doing what they believe is the right thing. The best way to deal with them is not to ask for their advice.

Competitors
These people have their own fears and feel threatened by your confidence and talents. They try to undermine you while seeming to be helpful and concerned. It’s best to avoid this type if you can and at least try not to confide in them.

Living in the past
Some people constantly remind you of your past mistakes. They don’t seem to realise that you’ve changed and moved forward. They’re scared you’ll leave them behind, so they try to hold you back. If possible help them move forward with you.

Occasionally you need to leave really bad relationships behind you if they’re undermining you. In most cases though, it’s a question of being careful about what you share with whom. Remember that they have their own opinions which aren’t necessarily right for you. If possible surround yourself with as many positive, upbeat friends as you can.